Sheila Stewart: Can decisions cost you your life?

As I get deeper into the death of my sister Sheila Stewart, I want to tell you that she is not suppose to be dead! I am saying this in a humble spirit, because I am not God. We know that God is the ultimate authority on who stays or who goes. No one has power over how long they will live. No soul dies without the permission of God. Now that you know that I know, let's talk.

Choices.......You can forecast the future by the choices that we make....Look, I have only  one life to live and right now I am inspired to send this note to those whom I love.

 I was so hurt when they were rolling her casket out of the church. I did not go to view the body because I always like to remember people how they looked when they were alive. I never want to put thoses images of a corpse in my mind. Once the spirit is gone, there is nothing else to see. Just remember.

Sheila Stewart...full of life!

It was the first time I really lost it when they rolled that casket out of the church. It was not the emotion of the choir singing a powerful tribute that made me weep, it was me knowing what she was going through and why she moved to Atlanta in the first place and now she's DEAD!...It Should have never happened!

Man Damn!

I am telling you all this makes no sense...If she would have been mentally strong enough to stay in Washington DC, I believe with all my heart like many of you who know something of this tragedy, that Sheila would be alive today!  With all of her great friends who really loved this woman she would be alive today I believe! There are many of us who are grieving from the fact that we could not get there to be with her to comfort her and say something to help her.

She did not deserve to die like this. The sting of death hurts when you know it did not have to be this way.

Photo courtesy of Washingtoninformer.com....Sheila's casket about to be led out of church

Sheila Leigh Stewart BLACKSTOCK - Sheila Leigh Stewart, 44, 5078 Tara Creek, Ellenwood, Ga. formerly of Great Fall, S.C. a pioneer in the field of journalism, is fondly remembered for her joyous spirit. Sheila departed her life on Thursday, October 24, 2013, in Grady Memorial Hospital in Atlanta, Georgia. She was born in Fairfield County (Blackstock, S.C.) on February 28, 1969. - See more at: http://www.legacy.com/obituaries/charlotte/obituary.aspx?n=sheila-stewart&pid=167757246&fhid=8984#sthash.6iTNIuUD.dpuf I loved Sheila like a sister, and I was blunt with her in my assessment of things we would discuss. Problem this time is that it was hard to keep her on the phone to get into her mind the last 30 days. She said enough things to me to know that I wanted to come to Atlanta to see her and the baby.


Here is something that just came to my mind..."We should never be afraid to offend someone, if it will save their lives".  You may only get one shot!

Sheila Stewart lived a well lived life!

 I WISH THAT SHE DID NOT MAKE THE DECISION TO MOVE TO ATLANTA!  

That move cost too much!

My precious Sheila rest in Peace...but we will still be grappling with the loss of you....More to come

Sheila Stewarts Funeral 10/30/2013

from left to right Kiva Ferrer, Cheryl Girl, BJ Murphy,Diane Davis,Tone X, Tre Taylor Lori Mack...Alumni of Power 98

University Park Baptist Church Charlotte

It was truly a sad day on Wednesday 10/30/2013 to witness the last rites of our dear sister Sheila Stewart. Reverend Claude Alexander gave a great eulogy on "When Good people die too soon". He said we should live a well lived life. No matter how long we live it should be full of love and giving. Sheila was a true servant of the people. She will be missed.

                  

Sheila Stewart Laid to Rest in Charlotte

Check out more photos here....  http://washingtoninformer.com/photos/galleries/2013/oct/30/sheila-stewart-laid-rest-charlotte/

Back at WQMG again? What does this mean?

I am back at a familiar place in my career at WQMG 97.1FM in Greensboro NC.

I left here in August of 1992 to go to V-103 in Baltimore. I did mornings here at QMG from Feb 1990 to Aug 1992 with Jasmine James under the direction of my coach and mentor in the business Sam Weaver. .

Sam Weaver

Tony Gray

 Skip Dillard who is now the PD at WBLS in NY was a weekend talent. Consultant Tony Gray was our consultant too.  I first came to WQMG in October 1989 doing afternoons, then transitioning to mornings







 

Jasmine James

Skip Dillard

 Is this a scene from Ground Hog day?? LOL


I am so thankful to my program director Shillyne Cole for giving me this opportunity to continue my quest to become a World Class radio performer. You can hear me weekdays on www.WQMG.COM or on the Tune in app under 971QMG from 2pm-7pm eastern.

WQMG PD Shillyne Cole

Knowing now what I did not know at 24 years old and now that I am 48 with years of experience under my belt what would you do differently?

At 24 I had the fire in my belly to succeed in radio, and now at 48 I have gotten the fire back to be the best! I love this business! This is what I was born to do. Now it is easy for me to express myself better and more meaningful every moment I open the mic because of my experiences. Thank you God for bringing me back full circle!

BJ Murphy

I will tell you more about my journey and my desire to help train and cultivate the next generation of of broadcasters and take it to the next level!

Sheila Stewart..You will be missed!!

The Loss of one of our great ones....Sheila Stewart

I last spoke with Sheila on  Thursday October 17th (2013) and she was concerned about her work and how it was being received by one of her co-workers. She let me hear a morning newscast and I said Sheila you sound fine. She said I thought so BJ".

  Sheila was a very proud woman. She always wanted to be the best! She was an outstanding organizer. She knew how to bring people together in a matter of hours. She trained people like no body's business. All of her interns grew under her leadership. I discovered Sheila's talent when she was working in Raleigh at K-97.5fm and I was starting my morning show in Charlotte on Power 98. Sheila joined us in the latter part of 1995 as news director at WPEG POWER 98. She was born to do what she did.

I always have to state that Sheila was a misunderstood woman, because people did not know how to admire brilliance in another human being. Some thought she was eccentric, I thought she was tenacious in making things happen. Wow I miss you Sheila! I always wanted to have some of the Umph! that she had in abundance.

I can't believe she is not here. She was a friend. She use to loan me money when I was out of a job and I loaned her money when she was out.

We confided in each other about stuff and I was so proud of her!  She is a major talent, and she filled a void in Washington DC because she wanted to do that. She loved to help people.

One thing that I know about Sheila is that she did not reach her full blown potential as a broadcaster. She was in the warm up stages in my opinion. Sheila is Big Time Media to me, but things happen to distract us and pull us off the path sometimes. She is suppose to still be here with us. I am hurt because she did not want things the way they currently were working out  for her, and she was trying to fix things. She has remarkable resilience as a human being. I am going to take pages from her life and apply them to mine.

National radio figure on the air, died Thursday after a car crash in Atlanta. She was 44.

Read more here: http://www.heraldonline.com/2013/10/25/5340738/national-radio-personality-sheila.html#storylink=cpy

Sheila, Sheila, Sheila, oh how I wish you were still here. I know that God is pleased with her efforts to help the community in the way that she did. Sheila Stewart was action oriented and she did not shrink from a challenge. 

I am taking so many things away from the tragic loss of my sister and I am reflecting on how we should admire people for the gifts that God gave them and not be afraid of the brightness of the stars around us. Sheila gave you permission to let your light shine because she did indeed shine.

She wanted a family and she was proud of that fact. She was a lover and not a hater.

I just wish she was still with us. I miss you Sheila.... Dam! 

From every loss of life there is a story to tell. Death hurts, and is hard to take especially when those who try to do right leave us in a tragic way. Every moment that we are alive together is a sacred moment. We know not the time the giver of life will call the life that he gave back to him. No soul dies without his permission. So to Almighty God be the glory for those of us who really loved her for who she was.

I can hear Sheila saying to me.."Look yall we got to work together, I don't have time for all this pettiness BJ"..I said..."I know Sheila, I know" "What did I do wrong BJ?.."Nothing Sheila"! 

Wow this is crazy that she is gone! 

I just wanted to tell you how we were as friends and I will always carry her energy with me. I pray that God will infuse in me and all of us her passion for the community to make a difference in our suffering people all over America. Let your light shine like Sheila. May God be pleased with her.

Your brother BJ Murphy