This year, if you have made up your mind that you are done playing a character just so somebody will accept you, you are in the right honey hole. This is what I talk about on this blog. I’m talking to the people who want to be free.
At some point, you won’t need me anymore. I’m just here to get you on the road to being your true self — your unapologetic self — when you open your mouth to speak on your show or anywhere else.
What we all want is to be understood.
But what happens when people don’t agree with you?
Do you change your viewpoint because they don’t understand?
Can you stand alone in your viewpoint?
Are you a spineless person who shifts just because the room disagrees with you?
Are you going to crawl back into the herd because your thinking makes you an outlier?
Do this for me — and this is honest.
People will trust you when you agree with truth. Just say, “Yes, I can agree with that.” Only agree with truth. Don’t let people coerce you into saying things you don’t believe. Hold your poise. Don’t get rattled. Pause. Speak from the heart.
When you speak from the strength of your own soul, you win.
The hard part is baring your soul. That’s the power of vulnerability I’ve talked about in other articles. Read this one when you get a moment:
https://insideurbanmedia.blogspot.com/2025/10/transparency-is-superpower-most.html
Here are some points to sit with:
The end of performing for acceptance
Freedom is an internal decision, not external permission
Being understood vs. being honest
The courage to stand alone
Truth over approval
Emotional self-control is power
Speaking from the soul (not the script) is undefeated .
I’m talking to people who are tired of shrinking — tired of editing themselves, tired of being a sycophant in the room. You have a voice, but you’re afraid to use it because you’ve accepted a role that never fit you.
Growing out of that stage is uncomfortable at first. But you’ve got to go through it. This is what makes you a great communicator on air. This is what makes you interesting to listen to.
This is when your God-hood starts speaking for you — when you’re no longer afraid of being misunderstood or rejected. This is the “I Don’t Give a Damn” stage of life. Not talking about arrogance. For clarity, we are talking about how to stop pretending that you are this fake person that you know you are ashamed of. This is not you in what you are doing, and you know it. Stop it. I had to grow out of being this fake radio person aon air. It wasn’t until 2004 when I let if go. I was 19 years into my development as an on air personality. I'm trying to help somebody out there cut down the time of self discovery. You need somebody to help you with this. Coaching is the key.
If you’re young and reading this, get there earlier than me.
If you’re older, this is your destiny — if you’re willing to lose what comes with finally being your true, unapologetic self.
Right now on your show — whether you’re the host or the co-host — when you start making this shift, people are going to notice. So what?
Are you going to shrink every time it’s your turn to talk because someone looks at you a certain way?
Or are you going to look them dead in the eye and let them know you’ve woken up to the game?
Take your power back in the studio dynamic of ego gymnastics.
The people who compete with you don’t want you doing what I’m telling you to do. They want you to stay in your place. People who don’t want you to shine are true haters. I’ll be writing about that in 2026 — the jealous-hearted people in this industry. Ignore them.
So let me close with this:
You were meant to stand out.
And the moment you stop trying to be accepted is the moment your power shows up.
That fear you feel when it’s your turn to talk?
That hesitation when the room goes quiet?
That urge to shrink when someone looks uncomfortable?
That’s your growth knocking.
Open the door and walk through it.
Shock everybody with your bold brilliance and never shrink for anyone again. This isn’t arrogance — it’s freedom from the fear of being yourself in the room with others.
I don’t care who’s in the room.
Never shrink to make other people comfortable.
Carry this with you into the new year.
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