How Irrelevant Details Frustrate the Hell Out of Your Audience

 

When you’re talking, teaching, podcasting, or writing — the fastest way to lose people is by piling on details that don’t matter.

I just wanted to write this quick note for people who don't know they are doing this in their conversations. Giving too many details when I just asked you a simple question is a real turn off. People's attention spans are shorter than ever. You must learn how to get to the point in the most interesting way possible. I want you to practice speaking only straight words this week. Cut out all the fluff and see how you feel in how you communicate. Watch the reaction you will receive, then listen to how other people just like to hear themselves talk. The people who use run on sentences and just keep talking and never make their point. Here are some tips on how not to be that person:

Frustration – Nobody asked for your whole backstory. They just want the point. Every side note, every rabbit hole, drains their patience until they stop listening.

Losing your message – Your main point is gold. But if you bury it under extra stuff, people forget the point and only remember the rambling.

You look unprepared – When you throw in irrelevant bits, you come across like you don’t know where you’re going. Even if you do, the audience thinks you don’t.

Weak impact – A strong message needs to be sharp. Too many details dull the blade. Instead of leaving people inspired, you leave them tired.

Strive hard to get to the point. It will make you a better communicator and people will seek you out to listen to your wisdom.